Rules of Engagement - #7 Do Not Commit Adultery
Icebreaker
What's one piece of relationship advice (good or terrible) that you've actually received from a movie, TV show, or song?
Discussion Points
God's Design vs. Culture's Message
Scripture: Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, Ephesians 5:22-33
Our culture treats marriage and sexuality very differently than God does. While the world sees marriage as a contract that can be broken when it's no longer convenient, God designed it as a sacred covenant—two becoming one flesh. This isn't just about rules; it's about reflecting the Gospel through our relationships.
Discussion starter: How have you seen the cultural view of marriage and sexuality clash with God's design, and what's been the result?
Share honestly about the challenges of living counter-culturally in this area, whether you're married or single.
Small Compromises, Big Consequences
Scripture: 2 Samuel 11:1-27, Proverbs 6:27-32, 1 Corinthians 6:18
David didn't wake up planning to destroy lives—it started with a glance that became a stare, a thought that became an action. The enemy always advertises pleasure but never the consequences. That's why Paul doesn't say "manage" sexual temptation—he says "flee" from it. Run.
Discussion starter: What are some "small compromises" that our culture normalizes but Scripture warns us to flee from?
Talk about practical boundaries that help protect purity and faithfulness in real life.
Grace for the Broken, Power for the Future
Scripture: John 8:1-11, Psalm 51:1-12, Romans 12:1-2
Jesus met the woman caught in adultery with both grace and truth. He didn't excuse her sin, but He didn't condemn her either. He offered forgiveness and the power to live differently: "Go and sin no more." No past is beyond God's redemption. When we offer our whole selves to Him—including our sexuality—we discover His good and perfect will.
Discussion starter: How have you experienced God's grace in areas where you've fallen short of His design?
Encourage one another with stories of restoration, healing, or growth in this area.
Prayer Prompts
What are you celebrating this week?
What are you praying about this week?
Focused Prayer: Pray for strength to honor God with our bodies and relationships. Pray for unity in our marriages and church family. Pray for those struggling with sexual brokenness, betrayal, or shame—that they would experience God's healing and restoration.
Closing Reflection
The seventh commandment isn't God trying to ruin our fun—it's Him protecting something sacred. Whether married or single, struggling or thriving, remember this: the God who calls us to faithfulness has never once been unfaithful to us. His grace is bigger than our past, and His power is enough for our future.
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